Misconceptions about Breastfeeding from a Doula
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Most women are excited to exclusively breastfeed for their first 6 months or a year. They are often very confident in that choice and think that because breastfeeding is a natural process, things will come naturally. But in the haze of sleepless days and nights, and a little human completely dependent on you, the mom, it can be hard to adjust to this new life. The first nursing sessions may not go smoothly, and we start to panic and worry, and then we start Google searching and talking to friends and family members who share the old wives tales, some of which are downright scary.
Before you give up all hope, let me share some of the most common misconceptions I have encountered as a practicing doula, and the truth behind each. I hope this information gives you some peace of mind, courage and comfort needed to get you through it all.
It's important to address misconceptions about breastfeeding, as accurate information is crucial for the well-being of both the breastfeeding parent and the baby. Here are some common misconceptions that I have encountered in my practice as a doula.
Misconception #1 - Breastfeeding Comes Naturally, and so It's Easy
Many people believe that breastfeeding is easy and comes naturally. While breastfeeding is a natural process, it can be challenging for many parents and babies in the beginning. Some babies may need time to learn how to latch properly, and some parents may experience discomfort or pain. I like to reassure my clients they can seek help and support if they're having difficulties from myself or a lactation specialist.
Misconception #2 - Breast Size Is an Indication of Milk Production
This is a very common myth, but no, the size of a person's breasts does not determine their milk production capacity. Hormonal signals are the main regulator of milk production in lactating species. Milk production is also controlled by baby’s demand. Smaller-breasted individuals can produce just as much milk as those with larger breasts. Once your baby is latching properly and getting milk, the breasts will continue to produce milk to meet the demands of the baby. I always like to remind moms breastfeeding works on demand and supply. The more your baby demands or the more you pump - yes pumping is breastfeeding the more milk.
Misconception #3 - Cut out Dairy if you have a Fussy Baby
One of the most common advice you will get if you have a fussy or gassy baby is to cut out dairy. But dairy in the mother’s diet is not the only cause for gas and a fussy baby. Your baby’s GI tract has not developed fully as a newborn, and in the first few weeks they will be having a couple growth spurts. Gas and fussiness are very common in babies who are having growth spurts. Before you assume your baby has a dairy allergy, talk to your pediatrician about their fussiness or gassiness.
Misconception #4 - Breastfeeding Gets Easier with Each New Baby
Just like every pregnancy and delivery is different, breastfeeding is different with each new baby. Yes, there are things you learn with each child that you can use with your next, but there may be new complications and obstacles. That said, studies do show that women’s milk production is often quicker and more in volume with each subsequent baby, but this is not always the case. It is good to have realistic expectations, so that when your reality sets in you are ready to deal with it correctly.
Misconception #5 - Breastfeeding is Painful
Yes, it is true that there can be some discomfort during the initial days of breastfeeding. As the body adjusts, breastfeeding should not be painful. Pain can be a sign of an improper latch or other issues that should be addressed with the help of a lactation consultant or healthcare provider.You may however feel soreness, dryness and some cracks on and around your nipple. Moisturizing your nipples will help tremendously. Our nipple balm is made specifically to soothe your dry, sore, cracked nipples. Formulated with carnauba wax so it’s safe and digestible for your baby.
Misconception #6 - Breastfeeding and Pumping are the Same
Let me start by saying pumping is considered breastfeeding. Think of pumping as an extra step to breastfeeding. However, while there is no shame whatsoever in pumping and feeding your baby breastmilk in a bottle, there are some differences. With that said, each person’s situation is unique, and a fed baby is best. You should never allow yourself to feel less than, because you are not able to breastfeed your baby as you had imagined.
Pumping is considered breastfeeding
Pumping your milk for babies will provide them with breast milk, but it may not encourage bonding, which is essential for milk production in some cases. If you are struggling with pumping, but that this is the best option for you and your family, try keeping the baby close or something close to the baby. As funny as it sounds, this can help with let down. Milk production follows a feedback loop. Feeding your baby on demand at the breast rather than pumping to a schedule can encourage a continuing milk supply, and ensure a long and healthy feeding relationship. iBut you don’t have to take my word for it, seek out the help of a lactation specialist to help you reach your breastfeeding goals.
Misconception #7 - Breastfeeding Should Follow a Strict Schedule
Yes, babies should have structure, but when it comes to breastfeeding, you should allow the baby to feed if they need to. They are constantly growing, and their needs change ever so often in the first couple months of life with their many growth spurts. You want to make note of feeding cues like crying, sucking on fists, and rooting. Use these as your guide to when to feed your baby to ensure they are getting enough milk, and to ensure you have a good supply of breast milk to meet their ever-changing needs. An old adage that I tell moms ‘watch your baby not the clock’.
Misconception #8 - Breastfeeding Should Stop Once Baby Gets Teeth
If you are worried about what happens when your baby’s teeth come in, you are not alone. Many parents worry about breastfeeding when their baby's teeth start to come in. However, babies can continue to breastfeed even with teeth. Proper latch and positioning can prevent discomfort or biting. In fact, some babies won’t bite after seeing the reaction of their mom after their first bite.
The truth stands, you can continue to breastfeed as long as you and your child are comfortable with it. The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding up to two years and even beyond if the desire is mutual.
Misconception #9 - You Can’t Breastfeed While Taking Medication
Many medications are safe for use while breastfeeding and your healthcare providers will ensure they provide safe alternatives when the need arises. Always consult your healthcare provider so you can make informed decisions about mediation while on your breastfeeding journey.
Misconception #10 - Breastfeeding Will Make Your Boobs Sag
Breastfeeding itself doesn't directly make breasts sag. The changes that happen during pregnancy, like the breasts getting bigger and stretching, could have a small part in making them sag, but it's not just because of breastfeeding.
Also, it's important to know that how breastfeeding affects how your breasts look can be different for each person. Many people don't see big changes in how their breasts look because they breastfeed. And, the good things that come from breastfeeding for the baby and the person doing the breastfeeding are often more important than worrying about how breasts might change.
To help prevent sagging, it's a good idea to stay healthy, exercise regularly, and make sure to wear a good bra for support during physical activities. Here’s more information on sagging boobs after breastfeeding.
As a doula, I have heard and seen many things. These are just some of the misconceptions surrounding breastfeeding that are commonly thrown around. I want to help you through your journey by dispelling these misconceptions and providing the support you need to take you on this new journey with your new family member. Comment and share any misconceptions you’ve heard.
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